what's in a name?

what's in a name?, will you change your name, changing your name after marriage, leigh viner


This week, it happened. I walked into the social security office in Center City Philadelphia and 15 minutes later, my identity was changed forever. I spent a lot of time thinking about this decision, and whether or not changing my name was something I truly wanted to do.

I decided ultimately that having the same last name as my daughter was something that I felt strongly about. I’m sure it’s pretty common these days, but I never liked explaining at the pediatrician’s office that she had her father’s last name and mine was different. Although we’ve officially been a family for a long time in my book, having the three of us unified with the same surname felt important. That and Sarah Stone sounds pretty cool (if my husband’s last name was Weisenheimer, I may have stuck with my maiden name). I feel a little sad about saying goodbye to the family name that I’ve had for 28 years, but also excited to see what I can do with this brand new identity!

So, ladieszzzz what do you think? If you are married already, did you change your name?  Why or why not? Soon to be brides, how are you feeling on this matter? And to all the single ladies, do you have a strong feeling one way or the other? I want to know!

Image by Leigh Viner, available on etsy!

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9 thoughts on “what's in a name?

  1. Katherine

    “Sarah Stone” has a good rhythm to it. Very memorable! And I agree, being unified as “the Stones” feels important.

  2. Ruth

    When I was in college I used to think that changing your name because you got married was a terrible idea. I was an old and conservative tradition. Beside the fact that it was originally used to determine to whom the woman belonged.

    It was only latter in life that this meaning changed. After meeting my boyfriend (now husband) and wanting to have a family with him the idea of changing my name also changed a lot. It is like you said on this post, having the same name means you are family, the same family!

    But I still don’t think you’re changing families… You are adding a new family unit. A new not in the family web. And thinking like that made me not want to give up my parents family name… So I ended up with a insanely long huge name!! 🙂

  3. Maria

    Sarah Stone does have a nice ring to it! I thought changing my name was a huge pain in the butt though… but Maria Luci sounds a lot better than Maria Goller! So worth it, I guess. 🙂

  4. Kim

    I’ve never been very attached to my last name, but it might depend on my future husband’s last name! If I end up marrying Eric it won’t be much of a jump and ill get to keep my initials! Only time will tell…

  5. Alice

    well done! I wouldn’t mind to change name myself, as my boyfriend’s name goes so well with my first name, the only reason not to change would be to keep my mom’s name, but she recently remaried, so now I can let go of that name without feeling bad 🙂

  6. Jennilynn

    When my name change happened not only did I get to ‘keep’ my maiden name, I gained a middle name, which I never had before. FINALLY, monogrammed items were a possibility! Being very traditional in my non-traditional sort of way and with a very traditional man, unifying completely was inportant to me. There was no question to that. I will ALWAYS be a loud, obnoxious Fanelle, with or without the last name.

  7. phillydesigner

    I just got married and am debating this very topic in my head! I do not like my husband’s last name, and I love my maiden name! What’s a girl to do?? I want to unify our “family” if and when we have children, but for now, I’ll most likely keep my name.

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